Comments on: Steve Harvey On Golddiggers And Getting Hitched

By: NJFinest

NJFinest — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 07:55:19 +0000

***Standing Ovation*** @psilentstorm

I could not have said that better myself…damn

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By: psilentstorm

psilentstorm — Wed, 06 May 2009 23:51:09 +0000

It saddens me to see how Black men have heard that we are the source of all Black women’s problems for so long that some of us have seemingly acquiesced and accepted the blame! According to that line of thinking, there are no golddiggers. There are no women out there who pursue men solely on the basis of how many commas there are in their salary. No women have emotional baggage that keep them from forming meaningful relationships with good men. There just aren’t any good men! It’s not a woman’s fault when she “falls in love” with a married man who promised to leave his wife and kids but changed his mind later. Shame on that man for making his mistress that promise, and using her as his little side-piece concubine! After all, it’s our fault that so many women have bad attitudes, are loud-mouthed, and confrontational–all in an attempt to show the world that they’re “strong.” The ones that act this way, have to. What choice do they have, right? It’s all our fault because we make women commit adultery, have children out of wedlock, get pregnant by drug dealers, players, and guys who already have 10 children by 10 different women–none of whom are being supported by him. I mean, women are higher beings. They better than us guys, right Steve? Everything they do is just in response to what we’ve done to them, right? The stuff many of us go through in marriage, relationship, on the job, and even in church dealing with women is all in our heads, right? Dude, what planet are you living on?

By: im2intens4u

im2intens4u — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 10:20:18 +0000

Steve you words are so profound. Men really do not want to court woman anymore. Woman are often perceived as being a Golddigger she simply requests that a man date her outside of her house. Woman please demand of certain level of respect. Require that men go through the courtship process of a relationship. If you don’t, it makes it extremely difficult for woman who do require it. Men will then choose not to put the sweat equity into courting, because all other woman make it too easy for men. So men elevate your game.

By: aledra14

aledra14 — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 16:09:03 +0000

well steve harvey did it he actually made women to think about what exactly they want in a man and not what they can get out of a man. hope this helps our black men and women to see each other better in relationships and starting relationships.

By: TOTALBODYIMAGE

TOTALBODYIMAGE — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 04:34:34 +0000

STEVE, I LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!

By: Dis_tingwished

Dis_tingwished — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 01:34:40 +0000

Having said what I said in my last post. I am disgusted that relationships between black men and women have been reduced to dollar signs. Do you know what Barack got for Michelle on their first date? AN ICE-CREAM CONE. I dont think finances is a major part of their relationship, nor should it be. She was his supervisor and clearly in a financially superior position when they met. But she looked past all of that and saw the man that he was. And now, with her love and support he is the man at the wheel. I dont think gold digging and what seems to be his “responsibility to foot the bill” was anywhere near this evolution. Do you?

By: Dis_tingwished

Dis_tingwished — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 01:12:03 +0000

First let me start by saying rocki1 is absolutely clueless. There are lots of women out there who truly are gold diggers. Then there are those who have their standards and simply want financial reciprocity. Lets define the two for what they are. Then and only then will you be able to clearly see the fine line that divides them. And that line WILL miraculously become thicker. We cannot ignore the fact that there are women out there who judge a mans worth but the material things he possess. And if that’s what they use to determine what they want from a man, they will surely be blinded to the things that really make a man good; or bad. I asked my mother, in admiration, how she and my father make it work. I remarked that she must really have that 50/50 relationship across the board. She looked at me with a smirk and said, “No, son. We do not have a 50/50 relationship. We have a 100/100 relationship. We give each other our all and have been doing so since the beginning.” She later clarified that this meant spiritually, emotionally, physically AND financially. They have been married since Oct. 3, 1976. She was not a gold digger, she dug for something much more valuable, and she found it.

By: ANIVAL2SORTO

ANIVAL2SORTO — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 22:16:21 +0000

I do not think a man should do everything for his wife in a relationship it should be equal he must pay for dinner then at another time she should pay for it he should not do all of that then she will develop greed this is why woman’s use men to get what they want because they see the large sum of money he got and starts thinking this is when the greed kicks in relationships should be fair he gives her things and she gives him things now if you have a girl/boy and you give that person alot she/he is happy but when you want something she/he does not want to satisfy you by getting it for you or telling you she/he does not have enough money for it basically telling a huge fucking lie :

By: TMACKS115

TMACKS115 — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 10:55:52 +0000

hello steve i just want to say thank you from a whole lot of us lady’s i am a smart woman and i have always had my head right on my shoulders and still do but u r so very right because i had a younger guy that i knew wasnt my type of a man he was more like a boy and i thought i could help him so i did have my standards up high and my wall up but i fell 4 this younger boy not a man and tried to turn him into a real true man but it didnt happen cause why i lowered my standards and just kinda accepted some of the things he was doing that i didnt like but put up with him and i dont know why and no ladies or men it wasnt cause of the sex..but i thought i could help him be a man , so ladies dont let a man tear u dwn and tell u them made up words like steve said cause everything steve has said is so so true and thats why i kicked his ass to the curb where i picked his ass up from in the first place so ladies go get steve book and read cause i did….thanks steve and i love u and always have…..

By: ontime44

ontime44 — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 23:52:55 +0000

steve wat you are sayin is so true i have been alone for so many years until one day i saw a face i new was goin to be my husband and with so much respect he capture my heart and yes in four years we were married on feb 24 his b-day he said i was the best present he could ever ask for was for me to be his wife i love him so much . sign jeana

By: ladylove286

ladylove286 — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 03:58:26 +0000

Steve you have given good advice on relationship. I am going to put this on my priority list so that I get what I want and when I want it. Thank you for the advice.

By: rocki1

rocki1 — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 02:52:58 +0000

you are right on the money steve men need to treat their woman like gold and trash all the time. my ex needs a page out of your book, you hit it right on the nose. all men need to treat their woman like gold and not like a slave, and you should always pay for your girlfriend or wife’s dinner.

By: DREADHED

DREADHED — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 23:06:43 +0000

Well you are only as good as your tools and if no one has taught you how to be a lady then how do you learn? There are no victims only volunteers. People will treat you the way you allow yourself to be treated. We as women, especially women of color need to stop limiting ourselves and putting material incentives ahead of what really matters. Maybe the brother drives a bus but maybe with an intelligent driven sista by his side he can accomplish more but we snub our noses at the fact that he’s a bus driver then sit around wondering where the hell the men are at?
Steve is telling it like it is.

And men….you all need to get it together as well. But I’m not a man so you are gonna have to figure that one out!(hehe)

Peace and Blessings to all my positive folks out there!

By: SUTRA913

SUTRA913 — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 15:54:45 +0000

listen men don’t bash steve for making a book about men and what ladies shouldn’t looking for. if your a playa or balla use this as an edge. i read most of the women comments on here and they are practically seeing this book as the bible and running out to buy it. i say men should by this book too and stay ahead of the game. these woman are going to use this book as advise, we can use it as advise for our needs also. this game has been played since the dawn of man and as time went on the game has changed. its just time to make another change in this evolution game. so i say to women yes go buy the book and to get your man. i will be the promoter and the advertisement manager,nuff said.

By: g2theism

g2theism — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 13:11:21 +0000

“On the real ladies, Steve hit it on the nose,…I truly feel him and where he’s coming from,…Now all we need to do is have Mr. Harvey write a book about the brother that has learned from past issues with women. So Mr.Harvey, when will a book come out that tells women to stop judging men so harsh, Such as seeing a young man in hiphop clothing and assuming he’s some form of thug, or he’s beneath her…

By: SUTRA913

SUTRA913 — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 12:37:43 +0000

even though his marriage ended fucked up he made good points

By: SUTRA913

SUTRA913 — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 12:16:02 +0000

yo Steve hit it on the nose. he described two types of men and i was the dude that played games. i did all types of dirt but now the games stopped I’m married to a woman thats completely different from the women i was playing games on. so women if you want to get married or have a long lasting relationship establish what you want and stay by it. trust me you will weed out the men from the boys real quick.

By: MZJAXXEN

MZJAXXEN — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 22:44:00 +0000

lol

By: george_williams

george_williams — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 19:26:10 +0000

hey sisters listen up all the brothers on her complaining about what Steve is saying are the ones thats playing. a real man doesn’t not have a problem with what he is saying. and for the sisters that are complaining you are the ones gettig played and don’t have any standards or requirements. And it is does not mater if you ae married or think that you are so in love. it is a lot of people in fake ass marriages and they have a hoe and pimp relationship.

By: nicolealize

nicolealize — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 23:39:08 +0000

I am glad Steve wrote the book I got this book for several of my friends because I got tired of always repeating the same things over and over. Its not a male bashing book or saying females are better the book is helpful.
I listen to his show sometimes during the Strawberry Letter segment and some of the letters that women and men write in are just good letters because they not only are getting help themselves they maybe asking a question someone else may not have had the courage to ask so they are helping others. Like the other day this lady wrote in about how she has the perfect man she always dreamed of and let him know that she didn’t want to have sex with him until they are married because she wants their union to be blessed by God yet she has this ex that she tips out to have sex with because she just can’t resist him. Questions like these are answered in the book everybody could use a little guidance every now and then.

By: thoughts_ideas

thoughts_ideas — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 19:28:20 +0000

In response to comments that state maybe books about relationships shouldn’t be aimed at women, but if you really want to fix relationship issues to instead aim them towards men. That wouldn’t fix anything. The point of the book is to assist women who do want a real man, and to help women weed out the ones who aren’t actually real men. Now don’t get me wrong, writing a book for men could be of assistance for men who are already Real but just want to become better so as to find that women that’s for them. However it wont fix the issue of fake men (if you will). As they wouldn’t read it because they are already getting what they want out of some women. That’s the point of this book, so women can help weed out those BS-ing guys. As well into comments that delve into a bunch of sexism, it should be known by now, yes there are gold-digging women AND men, we all know that. Anything you can call a women (even though you shouldn’t call her that), you can find a guy who deserves to be called it as well. But stop trying to fight that battle, the reason women get called bitches and gold-diggers is because its to put them down. Stop fighting the battle that there are men out there like that too. Of course there are, women and men are as different as people tend to stereotype. But that battle doesn’t fix anything, instead let it be known, “I” am not a bitch and “I” am not a gold-digger, damn it go old school and say, “I am women hear me roar”. Just don’t fight for the pointless and already known perspectives, fight for showing who you know YOU are and for what you deserve and want in a relationship. Oh and by the way no there is NOT anything wrong with a woman paying for her own meal et cetera and doing things of that nature that is true (in regards to other comments made below). But that doesn’t disclude men from knowing they should be picking up that bill. Maybe not every time, because men and women are equal, however 50% to maybe even the majority of the time the man should. Why? Because its chivalry! And damn it its not dead! Women are suppose to be able to take care of themselves and stand on their own two feet, however men are suppose to take care of their women anyways, even when both of them know she can take care of herself, because he loves her and WANTS to be there for her and do everything for her and BE her everything. Doesn’t mean a man isn’t suppose to let a women be herself, but we all know the main ideal of this, its an equilibrium in a relationship of a women being a women and a man showing his deep affection for her in one of the many ways that he attempts to do so every day. (And in response to the comment about Steve; I don’t think Steve is an expert, but he is just trying to sell a book and give out some advice. You don’t have to buy the book. But there are a ton of other people putting out books that don’t know any more than he does either. Just because he is famous doesn’t mean he needs to be an expert to want to make a book, being famous just helps him market the book).
In the end there were a few too many bias, some sexist and some blinded comments for this in my opinion. So… I had to add a little something to try and set the record straight a little. :)

By: philly1474

philly1474 — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 16:10:47 +0000

who made steve harvey the expert what cause he has a little money and hes on tv. that goes to show you people will read anything. how many times was he married ? oh yeah thats what makes him the expert. whats next steve dianetics

By: triknu2

triknu2 — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 14:25:43 +0000

I like Steve Harvey and undoubtedly he drops knowledge and has an intelligent sensible out look on life. However, I don’t believe that the women of the world are the ones that need to be schooled on love. I understand that ladies buy more books then do men, so of course we are your target audience, but if you really want to make a difference,writie a book for the male population and advise them to stand up and be men. Say what they mean, do as they say, and be honest. Don’t have all these mumbo jumbo ways of saying and doing things and expect us women to decode them.

By: sour9lemon

sour9lemon — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 12:37:58 +0000

if we go back to the u bring half i bring half ….the golddigga thang wouldnt be an issue.if we go back to dating..instead of tryna hit that…..if we go back to kourting for a while instead of tryna get them in a bottle of patron…these probls wouldnt be diskussed…..get god in the relatiohship……

By: sexygoodson56

sexygoodson56 — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 22:55:19 +0000

out of dallas, got this marrage guy, but i dont want to have sex with him because it not right, and he can”t do his thing because of his sugars, keep him from getting, (Hard) and keeping it, but i enjoy being with him, I try to make hime still field like an man, don’t have sex at home try to keep it real,i am 57 i look good for my age ,just need to hold on, because if he did move out,where he at now i will not shack,so i tell him to stay.home.and do his best,

By: blakask

blakask — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 22:13:43 +0000

SOMEONE PREVIOUSLY POSTED THAT THE MEN NOWADAYS DO NOT KNOW HOW TO DATE WOMEN! I AGREE 100%. THEY DO NOT KNOW HOW TO CARRY ON A GOOD CONVERSATION EITHER. THEN YOUR “SUPPOSE” TO GO TO THE OTHER SIDE OF THE CITY TO SEE THEM? NO ONE IS PERFECT, BUT GUYS COME ON, SET YOUR GAME UP! I AM NOT TRYING TO OFFEND ANYONE, SO IF THE SHOE DOESN’T FIT TAKE IT OFF. I AM PERSONALLY TIRED! FOR KENNY, MAYBE STEVE IS SAYING SOME THINGS THAT YOU DON’T WANT WOMEN TO KNOW. YOUR RESPONDS HOLDS AN AIR OF BITTERNESS. IF A WOMAN WANTS TO SPEND HER MONEY TO BE MISLED, THEN LET HER. BETTER THAN SPENDING IT ON A MAN WHO IS NOT IN HER CORNER!

By: stamped

stamped — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 18:53:55 +0000

Tell em Steve!

By: BLISSBLUSHING

BLISSBLUSHING — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 07:57:08 +0000

As a woman, either young or old. You learn from personal experience or watching vicariously around you adopt and revise as you grow and mature. What you as a person stand for and what value system that you have in place. Learning about relationships come from communication, observation, and knowing what you want from the begining. Then what are your foundations of a relationship is your back..Or Intelligence. What bothers me is why the term is just labeled on women? There are men that are golddiggers will tell you what they want and who.

By: smoorelpn23

smoorelpn23 — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 23:07:49 +0000

Hey victoria,
Have fun! Thats it. your problem just may be that you need a change of scenery. You cant keep going to the same type of places expecting different people. Trust me once you start your new career your going to meet all kinds of new people. sometimes its hard for us to see a good man even if he is sitting on us, because they are not what were used to. And dont change shit about you, if you always treat yourself like a queen and expect nothing less you will attract it to you. and thats not being conceided thats confidence! its bout time these damn men learned how to court a woman again! sdm7 called it!